The new year always brings in new year’s resolutions. Instead of adding more habits and to-do’s to your life, try letting go of things instead. Here are 10 things to let go of in 2019.
1, Self Deprecation
It’s time to stop undermining your confidence and downplaying your strengths. Being proud of who you are and what you can do does not mean you’re arrogant or putting anyone below you. YOU ARE AWESOME, so start talking about yourself like you are.
2. Saying No to New Experiences
I’m pretty guilty of this. There were times when I turned down plans just so that I can lay in bed all day and binge watch Kdramas. At first, I thought of it as self care and my recharge time, but in reality, it was me being lazy and too bothered to leave my comfort zone. Try saying yes to hanging out with friends and living life. Life moves pretty fast, if you don’t go out there and experience it, it’s really easy to miss.
3. Eating Out of Boredom or Emotion
I can eat a whole bag of hot cheetos when I’m feeling bored or sad. Though very satisfying in the moment, it didn’t really do me any good in the end. The only thing I gained from it was more calories and fiery poops the next day. This year, try channeling your cravings into healthier outlets such as drinking water, taking naps, or going for walks.
4. Spending Money On Instant Gratification
Retail therapy is anything but therapy. Sure it feels awesome to buy nice things for yourself once in a while, but if this is the only thing that makes you happy, then there is a serious problem here. Instead, try saving your money and invest it into things that will make you happy long-term such as a vacation, your favorite groceries, a dance class, etc. I found that once I started saving and investing my money in my long-term happiness, I no longer felt the need to shop for material items to make me feel good.
5. Avoiding Spending Time with Family
I know, sometimes your family can drive you crazy, but one harsh reality I learned this past year was that the older I get, the less time I spend with them. Since graduating from college and moving away from San Francisco, on average, I only see my immediate family about 5 times a year. This year, I’m going to change that and visit way more often, even if they drive me crazy.
6. Ending Your Days and Nights with Your Phone
Everyone needs a social media detox in their life. I must admit, social media is very addicting. However, we need to go back to a time where social media wasn’t everything. I understand that quitting social media isn’t realistic at all, but a healthy way I detox my mind from social media is by not looking at my phone first thing in the morning, and last thing at night. Since implementing this, I’ve been feeling more relaxed and at peace with myself in the morning and at night because I’m not bombarded by everyone else’s lives. It’s just me, and it’s been pretty nice.
7. Putting Your Health Last
Stop going to work sick. I repeat. STOP. GOING. TO . WORK. SICK. You aren’t going to get better and you are putting your coworkers at risk of getting sick as well. It’s not going to be a win-win situation. The only way to win, is to take care of yourself first. There’s only 1 you. Health is wealth.
I feel like procrastination is always on people’s list, but no one ever sticks to it. EVER. Procrastination never does any good. My tip is to start before you’re ready. If you have a project due, don’t give yourself enough time to think about what you’re going to do and plan for it. Just take out your materials and work. Once you hit the 15-minute mark, you’ll be in the zone and won’t want to stop working. Trust me, the hardest part is starting.
9. Talking About Other People Rather Than Ideas
Gossiping is so so so good, but also so so so useless. This year, I challenge you to stop gossiping and talking about other people and to start talking about ideas, opinions, values. Try to connect with people in a different way that does involve talking shit about other people. All you have is your word, and if your words are 95% about other people, then you may need to rethink your priorities.
10. Worrying about Things You Can’t Control
Let’s face it, we all have tendencies to try to control things to have life work out in our favor, but life doesn’t play that game. We are forced to take whatever life throws at us and work with what we’ve got. The only thing we can control is how we react to a situation. This year, let’s stop worrying about things we cannot control. Let’s cross that bridge when we get to it. Let’s take it one day at a time.
What are some things you are letting go of in 2019? Let me know your thoughts! Also, watch my youtube video if you want to listen to this post instead of reading it!